The end of a relationship brings pain, anger and sadness with it. Is there any sense to analyze the reasons for the break-up? Suddenly, instead of butterflies in the stomach, you feel hard pressure in your chest.

It’s good to analyze the painful experience. It’s important to analyze good experience in our lives as well. That is a way how we are learning about ourselves and how we can grow in the future like a person. Also, it will make it easier for you to go on.

The relationship is finished. Accept the end as a necessary chapter in your life. Of course that chapter will come a new chapterin your life, etc. The Book is finished only when you die. That’s life. The past experience can help you to “enter in a new chapter” more clever, enriched with awareness what to do or not to do in the new chapter. Work on your self. Grow up.

Is it really necessary for two people to think alike to be as one? Or is it the differences that build a bridge between two worlds or nationalities, or religions, where the mutual exchange of information helps us discover unknown areas of life? In every relationship you learn something new: about yourself, about someone else’s way of living, point of views, habits, way of thinking… It’s good to have things in common, but also it’s necessary to respect and accept other people differences. Differences between two people could help them to grow together, to build their own way of learning, living and developing in their lives.

I will mention only one mistake what I think that most of women make in a relationship. They want to make men act like they want , or if you want, they want to change them. It is a common mistake in the women’s world. That kind of relationship is finished before it has started. Because, after a while, the woman will get bored with the “model” what she has made, or man will become so unsatisfied because he can not show his real nature and personality. He will do what she wants, and that is a great base for his frustration and soon he will seek a way out. Actually, the woman didn’t accept the man  like he is.

While women make such a mistake, they will go from one bad relationship to another. It’s not difficult to realize that you are doing that. If you know to listen, then you will hear that your partner saying to you or complaining that he is not doing what he wants. You can also see that on his face. You can’t miss that impression on his face. We all need to work on acceptance. That is a way how we are growing and developing as a person. Also, we have to learn to listen and to recognize the signs. Of course, if there are things what you really don’t like or can not accept like a person, then go away from that relationship (bad sex, various type of abuse, alcoholism…).  

So, analyzing is good, because you have the opportunity to comprehend what you did wrong and to try to fix that in your next relationship. Don’t take me wrong, you are not the only one who did bad things. Of course for every break-up you need two persons. So, try to think about your mistakes, but also try to see the mistakes of your ex partner. That will give you a whole picture.

Sweeping things under the carpet remains a virtue, it seems, while facing the other person is obviously becoming a characteristic of the brave and honest people in this case, women, because this is a blog for clever women…

P.S.

Please, forget those “Tips and advice on How to bring your ex back”
If he is gone, it means you didn’t match, doesn’t matter whose fault is that, or who made step out from that relationship.