He is cute, groomed, well mannered, emotionally intelligent, mostly college educated, employed on first sight – ideal and living with parents! Although you already have ten years of working life, pension and health fund, you still secretly going out from his children’s room in which you can see even a poster of Superman from the eighty+ and his parents catch you at the door with: ”Breakfast before you go, at least coffee” Unpleasant? Veeery….

“To go out with a man who is living with mom and dad?? I would rather go to the monastery” my friend was screaming over the phone and few months later she was running from the “children’s room one of the “best guy in the world”. That was two years ago. They are still together. He is living in her flat now

And he still doesn’t know that in the shop except the chocolate and beer you can also buy toilet paper, detergent, salt, pepper…He doesn’t know the purpose of all these buttons on washing machine, how iron works… My friend doing all, doesn’t matter that she go to work before him, coming back after him, one per month has a business trip and she is not at home just as mush as he can each day, for that time, to go to his mother to lunch and doesn’t get bored with that.

He doesn’t have a problem to get up at five in the morning because she has to be at six at the airport, to make cooked food warm, to go to market and bring just what is on the list…But why he is not paying the bills, doesn’t participate in costs for food, medical, cinema, dinner, going out? It is understood that it is her job, as it was until recently – Mom’s job. And he is spending only on his toys, from cars to incomprehensible, unnecessary high-tech gadgets… full house of those things!  

I would not say that she is comfortable in that story, but she categorically rejects the “Family story” because she said that she is “not able to support two children”. And what now?

German scientists for all blame feminism! Because, they say, women took over advantage on all fields, and now men need help. Professor Klaus Hurrelmanna from Bielefeld University said: “Whether it is about education, health, or the average length of life – women are in a better situation.

In short, women are winners in all disciplines. The problem is that this victory was won to the detriment of men, scientists believe.

“Worrying about women we have forgotten men,” says Hurrelmann. Constantly was insisting that women take new roles. Beside classic role – kitchen, home, children in their arsenal of imperative interfered also career!

Do you need a man to whom you should be a sponsor whole your life? If it is ok, keep in mind that there are two types of “sponsor men”.

Typically, toy boys do not hide that they choose a woman who has to solve their economic and social status. Then you have a lot of Sub categories: those who use their partners to climb personally and professionally thanks to partner’s connections and status and those who are completely immature and good to be like a “Candy” to woman who knows what she wants. They will attach to you so badly that you will have the feeling that you are not walking through your life at all.

What the experts say about this phenomenon?

This phenomenon can observe from the perspective of men and from the perspective of women.

“The angle of a man is, apparently, entirely clear. Younger man is someone who seeks safety, the woman who does not demand that he has experience; she is not demanding and still looks good. Psychiatrists would say that he asks for his mother (again their mother! ).

Women, on the other hand, are entering in a “older period” and they don’t accept that so easy. She doesn’t need any more a man who will give her protection and safety or because of money. She is professionally successful and she needs someone with who she can enjoy, get calm and entertain.

And the younger men are as kiwi – they’re green, refreshed and full of vitamins.